Loving college basketball isn’t a requirement to score in life through the valuable life lessons from UCLA’s revered basketball Coach John Wooden. Since his passing on June 4th, print articles continue saluting him, televised tributes light up the airwaves, and dazzling digital billboards sparkle with Coach Wooden’s wisdom.
It is not unusual to romanticize a dearly departed loved one. What is different about Coach Wooden, are the accolades, praise and honors he received while living.
People who knew him, from his former players, to coaches, fans and friends, couldn’t refrain from beating the drum for this coach at every opportunity. No one ever spoke of him without reverence; it was unanimous. The world experienced a love affair with John Wooden. Maybe because he loved humanity with his whole heart. There is little more that can be written about the coach dubbed the ”Wizard of Westwood.” My personal glimpse is a summary of an extraordinary life: Coach, Contributor, Leader, Teacher, and Humanitarian.
A few years ago, I was fortunate to emcee an event featuring the Coach and Andy Hill, co-author of their book Be Quick—But Don’t Hurry, as the keynote speakers. Listening to him share his life philosophy was all the motivation needed to ask to interview him for an association’s famous speaker’s series. Equally impressive, the coach then on the road to 94 years old, was on the speaking circuit.
A few weeks after the event, I was sitting beside him at his home in Encino, California, gaining insights to the qualities that made John Wooden. Not only a championship coach, he was a man with lasting positive influences on his former players, audiences, fans and anyone he touched personally. His inspirational messages can be found in any of the 8 books he authored. To hear how he wanted to be remembered in his own words, click on our podcast. Even if you didn’t know him, listening to an excerpt from our interview as he expresses his life’s philosophy, you will feel as though you did.
His “Do the best that you can do,” attitude attributed to his star making qualities. His ethics, integrity and character made him a star, although his humility didn’t allow him to think of himself in such a manner. His sense of what’s right was not just something he preached, he lived it. In today’s world, as CEOs, politicians, athletes and entertainers crumble when they say one thing and deceive the public, fans and voters with their actions, John Wooden stood out as a man of honesty and integrity.
He loved life and people, but no one more than Nell, his cherished wife of 53 years. He loved teaching, humanity and helping people develop the best of themselves. His inspirational leadership encouraged others to do the right thing and contribute their best effort. He taught and lived his beliefs both on and off the basketball court. For Andy Hill and many players, he became a father figure, the most affectionate tribute of all. Coach Wooden will continue to inspire us through his books and the contributions he made to humanity. Who ever coined the phrase, “We won’t see of the likes of him again,” must have been thinking of John Wooden.
Stay tuned for video taping skills, professional production techniques,on camera tips and the help you need to look and sound confident, competent and natural. The more professional your video looks you improve the opportunity to showcase yourself and your expertise.
First tip: Don’t try this at home! Some people think all they have to do is sit at their desk and tape themselves talking. You’ve seen those amateurish looking videos, right? Your homemade videos project the, “Look, ‘ma, I did it myself.” Family, friends and those who already know and love you won’t care. For the rest of the world, you want your video to create a powerful first-of-mind-impression. Confidence, or lack of, will pop right thru the camera to your potential clients.
You need to consider the lighting and the sound. Does it sound like you’re talking in a tunnel or into a tin can? Are there shadows across your face or under your eyes? These are the things that will distract from you and your message if they aren’t done right.
If you are going to produce your own videos for your website and Social Media presence, invest in a good camera, lighting equipment and a professional microphone. You want your video to look and sound as expert as you are to produce positive results. It’s your first introduction to potential clients around the globe!
You can email your questions to Judy@JudyJernudd.com We will answer the most asked questions on future posts.
Stay tuned!
Judy Jernudd
KUDOS! Five time New York Times best selling author, Harvey MacKay does it again. He just sent me a copy of his newest book, Use Your Head To Get Your Foot In The Door. This book is filled with how-to tips, advice and essential skills in preparing for job interviews.
Whether you’re fresh out of college with a diploma in hand, or a seasoned employee in search of a job, you will stand out from the more than 14 million unemployed if you read this book. More importantly, if you follow the book’s advice. Give yourself the advantage in today’s tough job market.
Congratulations, Harvey! My guess is that you will add another “bestseller” to your list while helping millions of people.
PS. One reporter’s opinion, “Your book is filled with good advice for anyone…not just job seekers!”
Dear Tiger,
First, you must have read the PS in my December letter to you. The part about not bringing your wife to your national public apology. Elin was nowhere to be seen at your first statement event, while your mom was present in the front row to show support. Although her non-verbal body language invited more speculation, but that’s another topic.
You missed many key Crisis Management Skills in my previous letters to you, including how to deliver a sincere apology. We’ll get to that point in a minute.
People are troubled as to why the audience attending your first TV appearance included only family and friends, and no media. Some people think you didn’t owe a public apology. I disagree. You are the world’s top golfer, an influential person with thrones of fans and supporters. You are a person the world looked up to and you messed up. You don’t have the option of ignoring the fact and then one day appearing on a golf course, business as usual.
Is a public apology good for rebuilding a tarnished image? Yes. Are we drawn to curiosity about public figures? Yes, but by now even the gossip mongers must be over the what, when and where of it. The train crash aspect that people “can’t stop watching” is over. You don’t owe the intimate details between you and your wife to anybody. Now it’s about you and how you are handling the damage. Your staged event was better than those early online written stilted statements, but it lacked specific skills to manage your brand image.
Second, whoever is advising you isn’t helping you.
From day one, this has been a Public Relations nightmare for you. Some people are calling your first public appearance a disaster. Ouch! No need to go that far, but we know you can afford the best advice and the question is, why are you not getting it? We know you are coach-able, at least about golf. A professional media coach will teach you exactly what you need to do to repair you brand-image and win back public support. The skills and advice of a pro might even help you with your family.
It is not only because media coaching is my expertise, that I encourage you to get professional coaching. The reason you need it should be easy to wrap your head around; crisis communication is not your expertise. You need a media coach who understands how the media works, crisis management and brand image. Your coach must be strong enough to make sure you “get it.”
Now, out of nowhere, comes this staged mea, sans media, culpa. You’re not through with therapy. You or your wife aren’t saying anything about your marital status. Shots of you on the golf course are not a reality anytime soon. In other words, no announcements, no news. The question has to be asked, what was your controlled event all about? Why now? You’re back in the headlines for all of the wrong reasons, Tiger, creating more controversy.
Third, it’s about the timing. If you want to get this thing behind you, get in front of it. The public apology you delivered on Friday was expected shortly after the accident, when your sexual transgressions began to roll out faster than a spilled bucket of golf balls. At the time, it was about a statement and your physical presence, not necessarily questions and answers. Now, almost three months after the fact, questions from the media are expected. In fact, they might have helped you come across less robotic and scripted.
TIP: You prepare for the kinds of questions you anticipate and take control of your answers. You rehearse until you can talk without a script. Rehearsals are a good thing for anyone. They help people seem more natural in an uncomfortable situation—particularly when handling tough questions—and bring clarity to the message. Rehearsals also help people move from the “I can wing it,” rambling or repetitive statements.
While we’re on the subject of timing, your over thirteen minute statement was way too long. Your brave words, including cheating and “I’m sorry,” painted a picture for your national audience. You apologized publicly to your wife, your family, friends and your sponsors. You confirmed you were in therapy with no immediate plans to play on a golf course. You could have issued these statements in about half the time, or less. While the public sensed your embarrassment and shame, something was missing.
You must have skipped over the advice about apologizing in my previous letter.
How to deliver a sincere apology: Don’t read it. No matter how sorry you are, a statement read gives the perception of insincerity.When remorse is genuine, people will see it and feel it. Emotion trumps word-for-word perfection.
Which brings us to the fourth challenge. You’ve heard this before, “We are a forgiving society.” Many of your critics, as well as fans and supporters, felt your monologue lacked emotion. Expressing emotion is a huge factor in winning back public appeal. The prepared, scripted statement and your incessant looking down to read it, sent a mixed message, don’t you think?
Unlike John Edwards, who looked sorrier that he got caught than for his actions during his long overdue apology on ABC with Bob Woodruff, your pained expression provided a glimpse into your misery. This is important, Tiger, words combined with corresponding emotions create the impact and connectivity you need to be believable. The meshing of the right words with the right emotion is never more important than in crisis damage control.
Your strongest emotion was anger directed to media for speculating about Mrs. Wood’s clubbing you that fateful night in November. See, you didn’t take the opportunity to tell us yourself right then. Remember that part in my earlier letter about “speculation and telling your story” before someone tells it for you? No one’s children are fair game for anyone in the media to follow around snapping shots of them, but on some level you had to know your mistakes would be a nightmare for your family when your other life exploded. It comes back to that being a public figure person of interest thing. You know how it works; money, power and fame. Did the headlines of some other folks including Gary Hart, Bill Clinton, Kobe Bryant, John Edwards or Elliot Spitzer publicly confessing their sins ever cross your mind?
That takes us to my fifth and final point. If you’re thinking about any more confessions on national television, and this is important, keep it real, show some emotion, allow yourself to feel it so we feel for you. This is probably an easier concept to grasp than to exercise. Being free to show emotion might be the basis of some of your therapy sessions. Coming to grips with letting yourself down could be your biggest hurdle yet to overcome. Ah, but these statements are only speculative aren’t they?
Stay tuned!
Judy Jernudd
Startegic Media